This is a journal entry, dealing with my own experiences, feelings and thoughts. Click here for psychotherapy theory, or here to find more about me.
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There is no question I have passed a clearly marked transition to a second stage of adulthood.
While women have the universal sign of menopause, men traditionally rely on “exit events” to bring this transition.
I had at least three significant events happening in a short space of time: divorce, loss of a job and the estrangement of my original family. Supported by therapeutic relationship, I could see how all these events have much in common and I can do nothing else than being grateful for them in allowing me to leave a previous life serving a false self. I can see the mistakes I did (in marriage, in work), but I can only look forward.
Thanks to this transition, and the silence that I felt in my own company, I made the decision to (finally) retrain as a counsellor.
Despite everything – lack of income or job security, loneliness and the rage I’ve felt by opening my eyes to my relationship with my original family, I am happy I found a bigger purpose for the second part of my life, and I feel optimistic that I will find a better way of living that is more “me”.
